Everyone knows that relationships can be quite complicated.
Maintaining a healthy relationship usually involves a lot of work from both sides.
A strong relationship needs mutual respect, trust, honesty, compromise, and good communication among others.
Unfortunately, there are times when the relationship is doing more harm than good. This is when you really need to take a step back and see if life/ the universe is trying to tell you something.
Whether you want to see it as signs from the universe or god that are telling you to leave a relationship, or simply as plain indicators that it is time to do some re-evaluating, in this article we’ll be covering the 7 most important ones!
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Is the universe giving you a sign to leave the relationship?
You might think this sounds a bit wishy-washy, but you have to realize that we are actually part of the universe itself. We are all on an individual journey collecting individual data (impressions of life) that dictates our thoughts, emotions and behaviors.
Since we are all collecting different sets of data (and view the data that we have collected as “the truth”) we are bound to run into disagreement or argument at some point.
You have to realize that this “ignorance” is why we as humans tend to fight with each other so much. We form opinions based on the experiences that we go through in life and regard those opinions as the objective truth.
We ignore the fact that at every single moment we are collecting data (from the moment that is unfolding in front of us), there are billions and billions of moments around the world (let alone the universe) that go uncollected.
Without this level of awareness with regards to how your opinions, emotions, and behaviors are formed, it can become difficult to interact with people in a meaningful way, let alone have a strong relationship. So if you or your partner is lacking this awareness, it can definitely lead to friction and negativity.
Since we are all part of the magnificent creation of the universe, having certain levels of friction or negativity (low vibrational energy) can definitely be seen as a sign from the universe (ourselves) that it’s time to let go.
1. You are being treated poorly
This one is a very obvious sign that it’s time to let go. As I said before, a strong relationship needs mutual respect.
You and your partner should be companions on the journey of life where you learn from each other and help each other grow.
If your partner fails to treat you like an equal it means that he or she has some growing up to do and you are better of without them.
Do be mindful of what your definition of “being poorly treated” is. As I said before, everyone collects different sets of data which creates different opinions and behaviors. So being treated poorly could mean physical and verbal abuse to some, while meaning a lack of gifted money to others.
If you identify with the latter, you might need to do some growing up yourself 😂
2. The relationship has become toxic and overbearing
This one is kind of similar to the first one, however, a relationship can be toxic and overbearing without you directly being treated poorly by your partner.
If you and your partner bring out the worst in each other, whether it be substance addiction, disproportionate amounts of jealousy, or other negative emotion, it’s a good time to re-evaluate your relationship.
You, your partner, or both of you need to do some work and grow as human beings before getting into a serious relationship.
If you or your partner is bringing toxicity into the relationship, it means that you are unable to handle your thoughts and emotions. Not being able to handle your thoughts and emotions properly always leads to negativity.
It would be best to follow a spiritual/ personal development course to get an understanding of how your mind and emotions work and how to use them to create positivity instead of the opposite.
3. You don’t enjoy your time together
Not enjoying your time together is definitely a sign to re-evaluate the relationship.
It could be you, it could be your partner, but it could also simply be life.
If you notice that your view of the world has become more and more negative and you have a hard time dealing with your thoughts and emotions, it’s a clear sign that you have some personal work to do.
Similar to what I said in the previous section, you need to do some research on how your thoughts and emotions work and explore your connection to the universe.
If you notice increasing negative traits in your partner, you can help him become more aware and mindful in the same way. If he’s not willing, there is not much more you can do.
Sometimes the relationship simply doesn’t work because you drifted apart. As I said before, we’re experiencing life as individuals, and these experiences change us. Sometimes the changes are insurmountable which means it’s time to let go.
4. You Become Distant From Your Other Loved Ones
If the relationship is becoming a bit manipulative which results in you not seeing your friends and family anymore, it’s a clear sign that it is time to leave the relationship.
Although it’s important to invest time and effort into the relationship, it’s also important to leave enough room for the other people in our lives.
The word relationship isn’t exclusive to sexual relationships. You also have relationships with your loved ones which are important to maintain.
5. You constantly feel stressed and have no peace in your heart
If you constantly feel stressed and have no peace of mind because of the relationship (and only because of the relationship), it’s time to leave. No relationship is worth risking your mental health for.
That being said, if you are easily stressed out and can’t really resonate with the term “peace of mind”, you probably need to work on yourself.
Do some meditation, try some yoga, try out a spiritual/ personal development course, life is too beautiful to suffer from the mess we can often create in our minds.
6. Others Are Warning You About Your Partner
You’re probably familiar with the term if everyone is an assh*le, you’re the assh*le.
Meaning that if everyone is being mean to you, more often than not you’re the one that is causing them to be mean.
Similarly, if multiple people around you warn you about your partner, there is a high chance that you’re partner is actually kind of a d*ck.
In this case, again, your partner has some personal development to do and it’s best to get on with your life.
7. You Are Not Growing and Are Distracted From Your Goals
This kind of correlates with number 4. If your partner is kind of manipulative which results in you not being able to achieve your goals and growing as a human being, it’s definitely time to re-evaluate the relationship.
A relationship is about growing together and supporting each other. If this is not possible in your relationship, it’s time to leave.
However, sometimes it’s inevitable that you have to delay your goals somewhat in order to make things work. In this case, just make sure there are clear agreements and try to make concessions on both sides.
Considerations before leaving the relationship
Before biting the bullet and actually ending the relationship, make sure that you’re not the one actually sabotaging the relationship (unconsciously).
As I said before, we all collect different data from the experiences in our lives which form different opinions, emotions, and behaviors.
So, sometimes we may think our partner is the problem while it’s actually us. This can result in a lot of regrets when we eventually find out.
One of the best ways to gain more clarity is by becoming aware of who we are and how our thoughts and emotions are formed. A great course that can help you with this and increase your relationships is Marianne Williamson’s Powerful Beyond Measure.
In this course you’ll find guided meditations, journaling prompts, and a complete video training on how to become the master of your thoughts and emotions instead of a slave. So do check it out if you’r interested!
As I said before, you can see the signs I mentioned in this article as signs from God or the universe itself (which we actually are), or simply as signs of an unhealthy relationship, what matters is that you now know how to turn this negativity into something positive.
Thank you for taking the time to read my article, if you have any questions feel free to let me know in the comments below!